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Hi, this is Janet Lansfrey.

Welcome to Unruffled.

Today I'm going to be, well, what I hope I'm going to be doing is encouraging you, especially if you have

a child who seems extra, maybe anxious, they're sensitive, they get overwhelmed.

Maybe it seems like they're different from their peers or other kids that you see.

And we worry, right? So that's

why I thought it might be helpful to share that several people have written to me about this

topic recently. While maybe this is a less common temperament or it seems to be a lot of children

have it. I relate to it, you know, where we're, maybe we're

a little awkward socially. Maybe it could be referred to as reserved, introverted, slow to warm,

shy, I guess, although I never love that term. Maybe because it was used about me by my parent in a disapproving way,

like telling people when I wouldn't say hello right away. She's shy, and I could tell that

that wasn't a welcome way to be. But is this a deficiency? Is this a problem? Is this something

we should be ashamed about? Absolutely

not, in my opinion, in my experience. Because really, children that have this, they can do just

fine when they're one-on-one with a friend, socializing in small doses or in ways where they feel

like they have some control over

the situation. But when it's kind of unmanageable and coming at them, it's unsettling and exhausting.

So anyway, like I said, I relate to this kind of temperament. And what I would like to help

these parents do is, well, they've all

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