I feel like most of the issues that stepmoms have stem from guilt and the shame for how they feel about how they're experiencing stepmom life.

You're not alone. You're not a bad person for feeling the way you feel. It's okay. So today I want to go through and just really normalize some of the things that a lot of stepmoms are feeling.

And then I'm going to share just some things that looking back, I wish I would have done differently when I first became a stepmom.

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So today, this week's episode, I really wanted to talk about something that's coming up for me a lot when I'm working with coaching clients, when I'm messaging with you guys in my DMs.

And it's about the guilt and the shame that stepmums feel.

And I feel like most of the issues that stepmoms have stem from guilt and the shame and some fear that they have, but mostly the guilt and

the shame for how they feel about how they're experiencing stepmom life. And so they feel guilty for feeling the way

they feel. They feel shame because maybe their relationship isn't what they thought it would be

with their stepkids. Maybe they feel ashamed because the relationship with the ex isn't what they

thought it should be. And they're seeing all of these hearts and sparkles posts on Instagram about,

you know, the matching jerseys and like how everyone's working together and, you know, they just wish that they could do that.

And so what stepmoms often do when they're feeling this guilt and when they're feeling this shame is

they'll go all in and they'll do more. They try harder, which doesn't change the situation. It ends up just depleting them. And so a lot of the work that I'm doing with stepmums right now is to just notice how we're feeling. Just accept it. So you feel anxious before your stepkids come? Okay. Let's not feel guilty. Let's not feel shame about it. Let's not attach any meaning to it.

Let's just notice that that's how you feel. You feel triggered when you see the ex's name come up on your phone?

Okay. We don't need to act right now. We don't need to respond. We don't need to try to solve the problem.

Let's just notice how we're feeling. And so that's something that

I've been really, really working on with them because here's the thing based on the season that I'm in

right now. So my stepkids, if you're new here, are out of the house. My youngest stepson is away

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