Another friend recently told me about a clogged toilet in a vacation rental,

and all that was available was that flimsy, useless, hard, plastic plunger,

the kind that never saved a toilet in its whole plunger life.

And I can't stop thinking about how much I feel like that powerless plunger,

because that's exactly how it feels to watch someone you love navigate a potentially terminal

diagnosis. I know, and I've taught this for years to clients and over this microphone,

that my worth is unchanging.

That is a fact like the sun comes up in the morning and I accept it fully.

My worth isn't contingent on how I feel or what I can do in any given moment.

And yet I feel worthless despite all that I know. Notice I'm saying I feel and not I am. I don't want to

reinforce that I am what I feel. Sometimes our feelings are liars. Sometimes our feelings get it

wrong. Sometimes our feelings encourage a story that does not help us and actually hurts us.

I believe fully my worth is unchanging and yet I feel worthless in this situation.

Hello, I'm welcome to the show.

This is Emotional Badass, where Moxxie meets Mindful. I'm your host,

Nikki Eisenhower, live coach and psychotherapist. And on today's episode, we're discussing

choosing surrender over control. So a little bit of housekeeping before we get into the episode. I'm currently accepting

new clients. Check your spam folders if you've been on my waiting list or you can come jump

on that list at Emotionalbattass.com. Don't overthink it. I don't

pressure packages. You can buy one session at a time with me so there's no big buy-in. Your intuitive

gut knows if you're supposed to meet with me or not. I heard someone say earlier today,

just come step into my field. And if we're meant to work together,

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