My Abusive Husband Says I’m Unbiblical Unless I Reconcile with Him [195]

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Spiritual, Narcissism, Self-improvement, Marriage, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Christian, Divorce, Christianity, Education

5.0 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 1 November 2022

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

“Unless you forgive and come back to me, you’re disobeying God and the Bible!” If I were your abusive husband, I’d say the same thing. Why? Cause then I’d get what I want. Woohoo! Isn’t that what the Bible is all about? Oh, begging your pardon. I was basing my opinion off how I see most church leaders and many legalistic Christians approach the Bible. Which means that if you’re looking for advice on whether you should reconcile with your abusive husband — and what reconciliation really means — you’re going to get a whole charcuterie board of different answers. From biased people. Trying to interpret text that doesn’t give a full answer on… basically anything. Consider this alternative: Ask a different question and provide your own answer. Sound heretical? Then keep reading (and listening). In this episode, I spill some tasty tea on: - 3 thoughts I have about about a husband who demands reconciliation (one involves an ax) - Why people who accuse others of being unbiblical are actually doing exactly what they’re accusing others of doing (whew, that was a mouthful) - The limitations of the Bible - How to use the Bible to make a case for anything (genocide, slavery, rape, misogyny, political ideologies, etc.) - The danger of worshiping the Bible - Why relying on the Bible for all the answers means you’re going to be constantly confused, shoved in different directions, and easily manipulated - What we have that’s much better than the Bible - What the size of God has to do with the questions like “Do I have to go back?” and “Do I have grounds for divorce?” Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/195 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free
0:10.2	podcast, a support resource for women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden
0:16.6	emotional and spiritual abuse.
0:21.6	Welcome to episode 195 of the Flying Free Podcast.
0:26.0	Today I'm going to answer two questions that are very similar to each other and I get some version of this question these questions quite a bit but
0:34.9	Christian women basically want to know if they're justified in divorcing their
0:39.0	abuser and I've actually talked about this before I I think quite a bit, but since it's something that continues
0:45.8	to come up over and over again, it's worth addressing again. And there's always a little spin on it. So I've got got I think I'm going to say some things in this
0:54.1	episode that maybe I haven't said before.
0:56.0	Anyways before we do that I do want to read a couple of podcast reviews that women have left because
1:01.8	I'm so thankful first first of all, for these reviews, and I'm also
1:05.8	hoping that just hearing them will encourage the rest of you in a couple of ways.
1:11.3	First of all, I want you to know that you are not the only one hiding in your corner
1:16.2	subversively listening to a podcast that probably some people in your life would call
1:21.6	naughty.
1:23.0	You naughty little girls, can you just hear those voices in your head?
1:26.9	I want to call attention to those voices because
1:29.4	they're just little parts of you who have adopted the conditioning and brainwashing of modern
1:34.1	abusive Christian culture and it's just thoughts. Those voices are not
1:38.2	actually powerful. The things they say do not define you. They're not facts. They're just ideas that men with a ton of bias have
1:47.6	indoctrinated today's Christians with and that's it. Once we can see these
1:52.4	thoughts for what they are, they lose their power.
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