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So when your child complains about being bored or when you worry that your child isn't

living up to their potential, the problem might be motivation and you just need to redirect it. I'm John Fuller along with Danny

we can try as hard as we want to get a kid excited about something but it's

impossible unless they actually want to do

whatever it is and I wonder how you counsel parents in those situations. Well John I

remember recently with my son he he wants to be a really good basketball player

in fact he'd love to be pro if he could yes

man teenage boys have aspirations to be professional athletes.

You and I were there, right John?

And here we are talking to each other, not in the NBA.

But John, what I noticed with my son is he wasn't out practicing when he could he was doing something completely different and and so then I asked them in that moment what is it that you're you're wanting you said that you really want to be super good at basketball.

What are you wanting to accomplish there?

And he said, well, I want to make the varsity team.

And as we talk through that I help them kind of think through what is it that he really wants and why because there is plenty of motivation and if the motivation is to impress people or the motivation is to

Get better health whatever it may be it makes a difference in how it plays out. Yeah and in this case he really does want to, he had two competing motivations. He had the motivation

of my friends will be very impressed with me and then the other one because I really do love basketball a lot and as as he thought it through he

could tell this is something I have to own and that is so hard for all of us to own

certain things to the point of shifting all our

motivations to be lined up to one specific motivation to practice to put all the time

and effort into it.

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