I've been trying to figure out if we get to choose our beliefs.

And I actually wrote about this in my book recently, and I feel like you're the person to ask

this question, because I know that our lives are governed by these beliefs that we have,

about the world, ourselves, and everything in between. But can we choose them? I think so. You know, when I was here last of you, you asked me about my childhood, which I don't talk about a lot. It wasn't awful, but also it wasn't amazing. But the beliefs I had then, I totally didn't do the beliefs I have now because I chose to give myself better beliefs because, you know, you make your beliefs,

and then your beliefs turn and write around and mate you, and then confirmation bias means you look

for proof of what you have chosen to believe, and you'll find it. So if you say, oh, I hate cats,

they're vicious things that scratch you, they're really aloof, or I don't like dogs, they're

barky, yappy, horrible things. Then if you believe that about a dog and you meet a dog, you'll feel so anxious that that will become true. But if you say, oh, I love dogs. They're the most loyal, gorgeous, loving things. Then you'll have a different energy around them. So you should choose your beliefs. You should constantly upgrade, update, question your belief. Where did I get that from? Is that true? Who told me that belief? And even if it's true for them, does it have to be true for me? You know, I see a lot of women who say things like, well, you know, if you're really famous and rich, you'll never find a guy because 100 years ago, that was probably true. Men didn't go for

rich, successful women because they wanted them at home, but it's not true now. So your

grandmother's belief is not your belief. I love my daughter's generation who don't do body

shaming or fat shaming and have a whole different language. I think it's so refreshing. So you can always choose your beliefs

and you really should constantly check why do I even believe that? Is it even true? Because so

often it's not true at all, it's just something you've been taught or you've just gone along with it

anyway. So in the case of cats then, you know, I like all animals, but cats, I do think, you know, the way you describe them then, a little bit scratchy, sometimes a little bit, you know, annoying, not as loving as dogs, maybe I'm going to annoy a lot of cat people here. If that is my belief, if I say to myself, okay, no, cats are wonderful, they're lovely, you know, they're fantastic, they don't scratch, etc. I feel like I'm just lying to myself. And I, you know, this is the case with self-belief as well.

I could, I could say that I'm amazing and attractive and all these things. But in my subconscious mind, after getting, I don't know, bullied at seven years old by a kid that called me fat and whatever else.

Am I just not lying to myself? Well, I think you should lie to yourself. I think you should lie to yourself. I think you should lie, cheat and steal every day of your life. Lie to your mind, cheat fear, and steal back the confidence you were born. So let's imagine you're going for an exam. You go, I'm going to fail it. I'm going to mess it up.

I've got a terrible memory.

I know when I read that paper,

my mind's. You go, I'm going to fail it. I'm going to mess it up. I've got a terrible memory. I know when I read that paper, my mind's going to go blank, and I'm going to blow it. So that's a belief. But you could also say, I've got a great memory. Everything I studied for this exam is in my head when I read the paper. The questions are going to come up and I'm going to remember the answers and on super chill at exams I'm cool, calm,

collect. when I read the paper, the questions are going to come up, and I'm going to remember the answers,

and I'm super chilled at exams. I'm cool, calm, collected. I'm going to ace this exam. So if you repeat that over and over again, you see, the subconscious doesn't think it just feels. And if you say,

I'm nervous, I'm so nervous, and the subconscious feels that, then when you're nervous, the mind shuts down, while the blood rushes to your heart and your mind empties, it's like, if you're crossing a road in a car comes, I don't think, should I go left, right, forwards, backwards, you just move because in fear, you don't think you move. So when you're your mind empties i remember years ago i was coming

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