Hey everyone, welcome to this week's Motherkind moment. Thank you for being here. Thank you for

pressing play. This is your place on a Monday for calm connection and maybe even a shift in

perspective before the crazy week ahead. This week's moment is from one of my

favourite ever episodes back from November 2020. It is with Kasha Urbaniak. I love this clip where she

describes how to stop attacking yourself and why it is so ingrained in us to do that. She also says

how it's only once we can stop attacking ourselves that we can actually make space for our needs

and desires. I really hope this episode gives you something to think about today. Here it is. The first step,

and if this is the only step a woman takes towards breaking good girl conditioning, is to look at

this self-attack as something that was born again out of love, out of care, out of a desire to protect.

And that when we do it to ourselves, the first thing to know is it's not you.

You are not attacking yourself.

This is a universal phenomenon.

I have not at the academy where we had a headquarters for a while in this warehouse space that we made

incredibly wild and luxurious. We had this giant sign on the wall. We would run through all of the

transcripts of all the classes to see if new exercises were coming out that were successful or unsuccessful

and we would use that space to decide what works, what doesn't work in the most rigorous

scientific sense. Like, is this technique working? And the sign on the wall is can a woman use

this against herself? Can a woman use this against herself? And when we ran each exercise through the

test, a woman who finally has this huge victory,

she finally gets the loving velvet divorce in the house, or she finally gets the love of her life

or the job, or she finally, you know what she says?

She can very easily go, I'm so stupid.

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