You mentioned guilt there because sometimes I've done things like that and then I've walked down

the stairs feeling guilty, guilty that he's doing something he doesn't want to do, guilty that I'm not

the one doing well time, guilty that I'm about to go out and do yoga or something for me.

What is that about? There's a saying, I don't know if you have it in America in the UK,

people love to say, oh yeah, you give birth to the baby, you give birth to the guilt. They come hand in hand. And I really hate that. I really hate it.

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we feel guilt and the way I think about it is one is guilt and one is not guilt. And I think the

one that you're describing is not guilt. So I'll explain. Guilt in my mind, true guilt is a

feeling we have when we watch ourselves act in a way that's not in accordance with

our values. So if I snap at my kids, because really I'm annoyed that I went over on my cell phone

bill and I'm like stressed and I'm annoyed. And then my kid asked for something and I'm like,

essentially my body's like, this is someone small you can take

out your own upset with right and then I yell like no you can't have you know this thing you ask for

then after I'm like I feel guilty I think that's guilt doesn't mean I'm a horrible person that shame is

when our behavior we see as a reflection of our identity but if we go back to wait I'm good inside

I'm a good parent who yelled at my kids that That's not in accordance with my values. Like my value is treating my kid with respect

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