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The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

Moment 97 - The SECRET Hack Behind The Perfect First Date: Paul Brunson

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

FlightStory

Society & Culture, Business, Education

4.613.2K Ratings

🗓️ 17 February 2023

⏱️ 8 minutes

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Summary

In your social life the first date is one of the most stressful experiences you can have. From worrying about the impression you want to make, what to wear, where to go and whether this is your future life partner or not, the expectations you set for a first date become impossible. In this moment the love doctor Paul Brunson breaks down why we are all setting ourselves up for failure and why we shouldn’t even go on dates! Instead Paul believes you should scrap the dinner date and go for 30 minute meet ups over a coffee or a walk, relieving all the pressure. What about the all important chemistry on a date? Paul believes this is just physical attraction and listening. Simple!

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Another question I had was about honesty from the jump.

0:06.8

You go on a first date, you meet someone.

0:08.5

How honest should I be?

0:10.7

Should I tell them about my childhood trauma on the first date?

0:14.1

Is that being authentic or is that offloading?

0:17.8

Yeah.

0:18.8

Chris Rock said it best.

0:20.2

When you meet someone, especially on a date, you're not meeting them, you're meeting

0:24.0

their representative.

0:27.3

From that standpoint, we have to understand that there is a boundary negotiation that

0:34.0

happens especially on these first dates.

0:37.4

It is that tennis game again, right?

0:40.9

What you're trying to do ultimately is you're trying to, and let me even back up.

0:44.8

Can I say this about the first one?

0:45.8

One is that I think most of us who do the first date completely wrong, entirely wrong,

0:53.4

we set ourselves up from the jump to fail miserably and be disappointed.

0:59.0

The reason why is because the first date is too intricate.

1:03.8

It's too big.

1:05.2

It's dinner, but to prepare for dinner, I'm going to buy a new whatever.

1:09.7

I'm going to get my hair done.

1:11.6

I'm going to get this.

1:12.6

I'm going to buy this new thing.

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