You just described the reasons why you're trauma that made you a people pleaser.

And what's really interesting is when you told me that you were a people pleaser, I couldn't

believe that.

I'm like, what, you big tough athlete man, people pleaser, care, you know what I mean?

But it just, it goes to show that trauma in us is kind of agnostic to our masks or

absolutely.

And I, when you told me that, because we had a little bit of this conversation just

a hint that when we met in Dubai, I realized that I had been a people pleaser, but I never

thought I was in all of my relationships.

I think the significant reason why they failed is exactly what you've described.

I've gone in trying to compromise everything.

Oh my God.

For love.

Just to keep the peace, keep the love.

Just to keep them and try and keep them happy with me.

And in the short term, that day, fine.

You go any kind of mid to long term time, and it's resentment, it's sourced and anger,

exhaustion, arguments, a weight.

So exhaustion man.

You know, I take full responsibility for every relationship I've chosen and been in and

stayed in because I could have gone out of any relationship at any moment, but I was afraid

and I lacked the, really the self-confidence to step away because I was afraid of losing

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