I was looking through some statistics earlier on because I know that you've talked quite extensively on relationships and sex and sexist relationships. I found this stat that says a 20-22 study by

related to UK-based counseling network found that 26% of people in

relationships were having sex less than 10 times per year and 8% we're having no sex at all.

This is a stark rise from 2018 where the numbers were quite significantly lower than that it seems like as a society we're getting increasingly sexless

Yeah, so the question is where's the problem is the problem is the problem in the body or is the problem in the mind?

Now, being the kind of guy I am, I'm going to shift us to the mind.

I'm sure sometimes there are bodily issues and they deserve attention to.

But if I can talk about the mind,

why is it that sex is easier at the beginning

than in a long-term relationship?

One of the leading answers is anger.

It's not very easy to have sex or want sex with someone that you're angry with.

And in many relationships, there's a lot of stored anger that neither party knows is there.

And that anger has come from micro incidents of disappointment.

Someone didn't quite call when they said they would.

Someone didn't laugh when they might have done. Someone didn't show generosity when it might have been required.

And these things get stored up. And the result of too much of this is that you don't want someone going anywhere near you

Because you're because you're furious you're essentially furious, but in the way of these things you don't know you are

You don't know your furious again as it you know the mind is not obvious to itself

So you know if you want to have more sex don't just invest in candles and fancy linen. A quite useful thing to do is to go and

have dinner with your partner and say to them, we're both going to ask each other

how we've annoyed each other because we have annoyed each other

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