I don't wait for the phone to ring. I call a friend and say, do you have a minute? Can I talk?

And if a friend is ill-equipped, they start fixing. I'll interrupt the conversation, so

listen, I love you. This is not what I need right now. I love you. I love you. I'm going

to get off the phone right now, okay? Because when they go into Fixit mode, it actually

makes me feel worse sometimes. The friends that are some of the best-equipped people are

folks in the military. They know how to manage shit better than almost anybody I know. I've

cried with more people in uniform than I've ever cried with people in suits. And the way

that we talk to each other, like, I have a friend who's a general. I've known him for a

million years, so it's fun to phone to watch his career. He's now a general. And when we

say goodbye to each other, we say, I love you. And when we get on the phone with each other,

it's been a long gap. He'll say to me, hey, man, first of all, he calls me brother.

Hey, brother, right? Which means something. Hey, brother, I really miss you. And he says things

that a lot of guys don't say to each other. You know? He talks to me like sometimes I talk to my

female friends. It's full of emotion. It's full of honesty. And there's no much easement,

whatsoever. And yet he's a warrior. He's a combat veteran. And he'll say, hey, man, I miss you.

It's been a while. I go, yeah, I miss you too. And then we'll get off the phone and he'll say,

hey, I love you. I mean, I love you too. I'll talk to you soon. And

though he will, I mean, he and the, this is more group like him.

You know, I call him in my most, in my darkest times. And I know he would call me.

I have another friend and he's going through some shit. And I'm honored that when I call them

and he's like, hey, I've been talking to what you've been going through. You know, I just

realized I haven't talked to him in a while. And I'm like, hey, what are you going through? And he

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