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Velvet's Edge with Kelly Henderson

Modern Dating, Swipe Culture & What Actually Creates Lasting Love with April Beyer (The Velvet)

Velvet's Edge with Kelly Henderson

iHeartPodcasts

Spirituality, Relationships, Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality

4.5927 Ratings

🗓️ 11 February 2026

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

Dating feels harder than ever. Dating apps, endless options, and swipe culture have left many people confused, burned out, and questioning what actually leads to real love.

In this episode, Kelly talks with April Beyer, a 25-year professional matchmaker and founder of LEVEL Connections, about why modern dating feels broken — and what truly creates lasting relationships. With an 89% matchmaking success rate and hundreds of marriages, April shares what she’s learned from decades of helping people find long-term love.

They explore why more options don’t lead to better choices, how swipe culture keeps people stuck in evaluation mode, and why chemistry and “spark” are often confused with emotional connection. April explains why relatability, emotional safety, and self-awareness matter more than shared interests or attraction, and how unresolved patterns quietly shape who we choose.

The conversation also covers why matchmaking works differently than dating apps, how third-party guidance helps interrupt self-sabotage, and where AI can support dating — without replacing human intuition.

If you’re feeling discouraged by dating or stuck in the same relationship patterns, this episode offers clarity, reassurance, and a grounded reframe on what actually lasts.

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0:00.0

This is an IHeart podcast.

0:02.6

Guaranteed Human.

0:15.4

April Bayer is a 25-year professional matchmaker relationship expert and founder of level connections, a first of

0:23.3

its kind matchmaking platform making professional matchmaking more accessible for serious singles

0:28.4

and more scalable for the matchmakers who serve them. Hi, April. Hello, Kelly. Well, I had all

0:35.7

these questions ready to start the podcast and then you just dropped the biggest, amazing, most amazing bomb on me. And I can't stop geeking out about it. But I know my listeners know that I went to Second City over the holiday break in Chicago, which is like an improv. It's kind of like being at a live S&L performance is what I would say. And you just told me that you used to be

0:56.2

a part of the groundlings and then Second City. Can you tell the listeners about that a little bit?

1:02.1

Yes. It's so interesting. I don't often talk about it because it feels so unrelated to what I do

1:09.1

in my career. But yes, in my 20s, I was actually friends with Will

1:13.3

Farrell before he got S&L. And Will was the reason I went to the groundings. He's like,

1:18.6

you've got to go, April. And I went and I loved comedy. As a little girl, I wanted to be,

1:25.1

you know, the wicked stepmother, not the princess.

1:29.9

Whatever was character, I wanted to do it.

1:32.3

And I went there and I enjoyed it.

1:33.3

It was really good training.

1:39.5

But it was hard to be a young woman in those days and those kind of early comedy days because they really wanted people that looked more like caricature.

1:42.8

So they were harder on women,

1:45.0

I felt, especially if you looked a certain way. And then I eventually went over to Second City and I

1:50.7

graduated from their two-year program. And that's where I found my home. That's where I was

1:54.6

part of writers groups and directing. And it was just so, such a different space of people welcoming you, all types.

2:03.5

You know, you could go off character, off type.

2:06.1

And I loved every single second of it, every second of it.

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