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Morning to Caleb.

Morning to you, Caleb. My morning, Christian. My name's Caleb. I'm in listening to you guys for five years now.

My partner and I are seven weeks, seven months pregnant. And when you say your partner and you, let's be honest, she's pregnant. There is no we.

She's doing a bit of the heavy listening.

Not unless we need to contact all newsagings. She's around the world and some new miracle way. But your partner is pregnant. You are, we are as guys, a bystander. You are not pregnant. She is pregnant. And I wanted to message you and thank you for the show you do every day. of, thank you very much. And also to ask your

advice about being a good dad. Um, I think you've been listening for five years. You'll have picked it up on not so much the good dad. The stories, I don't have any about being a good dad. It's the, uh, shabby dad. And then you can, whatever the, whatever the opposite is of what I did, there's your advice. You've got cautionary tales.

Cautionary tales. I am but a cautionary tale. I can sum it up in three, and then Patsy can do hers as well as a great month for me. And I used to read a lot of the books as well. I think the most important things I can sum up in three very easy points. One, the thing that normally talks about being a parent is your whole job is to enjoy being a parent. A lot of it, they turn it into an ordeal, and you've got to worry about this, and it becomes so stressful. If you can keep reminding yourself, even in the tough times when you exhaust and overwhelm by all, your job is to enjoy. It is the greatest privilege in life is to be someone's parents. So the job is to

enjoy them. Always, always, always, always, always, always, always, keep them talking. The moment those

channels of communication start to get shut down, don't hang on to being who's right and who's wrong.

That is a life of misery. The most important thing is to keep them always talking, especially during the

teenagers as well. Tough, tougher than ever to be a teenager right now in these crazy times. Keep

them talking. And the other thing is, Caleb, never ever stop working on your own BS. They see it all.

You're always teaching your kids a lesson and they're not always good lessons. How you are with your anger, your joy, your dreams, and frustration. They are watching all of it. So always be working on your own inner stuff. Otherwise, you pass it on to them. Work on your own stuff. Or you're just going to pass it onto them. The best of your stuff you can do is to keep working on your own inner inner stuff because I'm telling you now they are mirror. They see all of it. My daughter's now tracked me quicker than my own wife. They know when I'm lying quicker than I do. I remember when the ratings went down to third last year and I was trying to tell them they were like, my God, are you going to get sacked? Are we going to be homeless?

Are you going to be a pain to get to your universe?

I was like a press conference.

I was getting really stressed and I was going, it doesn't matter. And then we're going, we don't believe you. There's no way you don't think it doesn't matter. And then my way I'd fight to go, Chris, can we have a word? you're trying to tell them that you're okay with this yeah i said okay to go back out there and i was lying

patty what Patty, how would you sum it up? I've just got to say, you're just talking like that is so inspiration for me as a mum with, you know, keeping the communication lines open. That's so true. Yeah, my mums have to work so much harder. No, I can No, I'm not trying to be fake, my wife works far hard as a parent than I do. And I think even Chris, your husband would agree with that as well. No, no, no, no, mums are the sense of the whole thing. I think initially, definitely. But what I would say to our listener is, particularly with a newborn... Please call them Caleb, rather than our listener.

Thank you. Sorry, I forgot Caleb's name. That's your business. She doesn't even know who I am right now. She's a mom, a lot to think about. Yeah. Instinct, follow your instinct. You have this newborn. There's no guidebook. You don't know what the hell you're doing. Your boobs are leaking. Everything's happening. You're not sleeping.

If Caleb's boobs are leaking, go see a doctor.

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