Welcome guys and gals to the man talk show. I'm Connor Beaton and today on this week's midweek mini episode,

we're going to talk about why people self-sabotage and what to do with your self-sabotaging patterns.

Now before I dive straight into this, just a quick reminder that we have an incredible men's weekend

coming up at the end of May that I'll be leading in Western

Canada on the Sunshine Coast. We've rented out a beautiful location and I'll be leading a

men's retreat for guys who are looking to develop a deeper sense of purpose, work on

improving their relationship with their partner, and who are looking to do

some deep inner work around a group of men, a group of like-minded men, who are going to

be going through the process with you. So we'll be out in nature doing some hikes. There's a beautiful

fireplace and lake to jump in and sauna on the property. And it is completely secluded out in nature.

So if you're interested in that, go to mantalks.com and check out the men's weekend there.

And feel free to apply and jump on a call with me to see if it's a good fit.

So with that said, let's dive straight into this incredible topic.

I've had a lot of people ask me about self-sabotage and they say,

when I sabotage, why do I do it? Why do I continue to sabotage? I know that it continues to happen.

I see what the pattern is, but why do I continue to do it even when I know what it is?

So I'm going to give you a few reasons why people sabotage,

and then we're going to go into what to do when that sabotaging pattern shows up.

So the first and probably most obvious reason is for self-worth. A lot of people feel undeserving

of success or happiness.

And in an ironic twist, some of the most driven people often strive to work hard and aim high because they feel like they need to make up for some sense of self-imposed sense

of inefficacy.

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