Welcome, guys and gals. I'm Connor Beaton, and today we are going to be talking all about self-worth,

how to deepen your sense of self-worth, but more specifically, one of the major pitfalls

that most people experience with self-worth, which is outsourcing it. I'm going to talk about

more of that in a second, but first, a great quote by one of my

favorite musicians of all time, the lead performer, lead singer of the doors, Jim Morrison.

He said, that's what real love amounts to. Letting a person be what he really is. Most people

love you for who you pretend to be. To keep their love,

you keep pretending. You keep performing. You get to love your pretense. It's true. We're locked in an

image, an act. And the sad thing is people get so used to their image they grow attached to their

masks. They love their chains.

They forget all about who they really are.

And if you try and remind them, they hate you for it.

They feel like you're trying to steal their most precious possession.

Now, I love this quote from Jim Morrison because it really embodies how dysfunctional

many of our relationships can be. And what I mean by that is so many people build relationships

on these, based on these masks that they wear. So they'll show certain parts of

themselves and they'll over embellish a certain part of themselves. And they'll do that so that

they can get validation and praise and acceptance from someone else. And they really, and this is

what I mean by outsourcing their self-worth, they will make their

self-worth dependent on someone else's validation. They'll make their own self-worth dependent on

whether they perceive themselves to be winning or losing in a relationship, whether they are

being successful or whether they are failing in a relationship, whether they are being successful or whether they are

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