Welcome guys and gals to the man talk show.

I'm Connor Beaton.

This podcast brings together some of the best thought leaders, teachers, and extraordinary

individuals to help teach and mentor you on how to be the top performer

in life, love, and business. And joining me today is a very interesting character by the

name of Jay Stringer. He's a therapist, a minister, and a researcher. He's a licensed

mental health counselor, ordained minister, and nationally requested speaker on the subject of unwanted sexual behavior, i.e. extramarital affairs, pornography, buying sex, and many others.

He's based in Seattle and has spent the last decades on the front lines of demand for sexual exploitation and pornography. His clinical work

guides men and women to find freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors through inviting them to

identify the unique reasons that bring them to it. In addition to his therapy practice and

frequent speaking engagement, Jay is also a lecturer for the city of Seattle's John School, a program designed

for men who have been arrested for soliciting prostitution. So in his first book, Unwanted,

how sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. It's really a multi-year research project.

And get this, it researches the stories of 3,800 men and women to

address the key drivers of unwanted sexual behavior, why people remain in a place of shame,

and the journey towards a new sexual story. So his research is one of the most comprehensive

studies on this subject. And in collaboration with

the Heart of Man film team, Jay also designed a comprehensive online journey for individuals,

accountability partners, and small groups who desire freedom from unwanted sexual behavior.

So really fascinating work, Jay and I kind of get into some pretty specific topics around

how sexual dysfunction impacts, how sexual dysfunction can be brought on by trauma,

childhood abuse, neglect, abandonment, rejection, avoidance, all of the things that we experience

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