Welcome to the Man Talk Show. I'm Connor Beaton and today we are going to talk about change.

Now, I just want to pose a question to you to start this off.

What if no matter what you did, you couldn't change?

What if you simply are the way you are and there's nothing at all that you can do about that?

Now, this is some people's perspective. Some people have the perspective that there's nothing

that they can do and that they are helpless. They're helpless to their circumstances.

They're helpless to their environment. They're helpless to everything around them. Everything around them is encrouching in on their

own freedom and ability to act. So what if you are the way that you are and there's nothing

you can do about it? Then what do you do? Well, the first logical conclusion that we must come to

is that we have to stop complaining.

There is no cause for complaining.

Because if we are the way that we are and there is nothing possible that we can do about that,

then complaining literally only serves one function, and that primary function

is to cause suffering. So if you are the way that you are and you believe that that's how you are

and there's nothing that you can do about it, then the only thing that you know is wrong in that

scenario to do is to complain about how you are because there's nothing you can do about it.

So taking this perspective allows us to remove complaining from our own sense of trying to fix

ourselves. But if we come back to the question, what if you are the way that you are,

there's nothing you can do about it, what is there left for us to do? Well, we can't complain

because that only serves to suffer. We must then be left with a form of acceptance. And in that

accepting, it creates a space for us to start to allow in the truths that are actually existing

in our lives. We can start to acknowledge the resistance that we have in our complaints.

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