Hello, friends, and welcome to the mini-edit from Edit Your Life.

In these snack-sized mini-episodes, I answer your questions about everything from self-care

to parenting, to relationships, to home, and more. Think of me like that friend you text or

call when you need a quick piece of compassionate and candid advice.

Send me your questions. Friends, before I get started, I wanted to issue a content warning.

This episode includes references to abusive relationships, suicide, and disordered eating.

So please take care and feel free to pass on this episode. And also, I'm sending virtual hugs

if you have been impacted by any of these issues. Let's get started. I have plenty of holes in my

memory around important events, so I'm often struck by how seemingly small moments have lodged

themselves with great precision in my gray matter. And there's no shortage of

seemingly small moments that have to do with judgment about my body. During an episode with

Dacey Gillespie, we talked about body stories. Dacey recommended reflecting back on these

stories as a way to square up with the reality that you are likely fed a lot of BS about your physical being.

The eventual goal is to recognize the absurdity of these narratives so you can step onto the path

towards self-acceptance and appreciating the body you're living in now. Here are some of my body

stories. In my experience, Koreans are blunt and also pretty brutal about telling you that you are

fat, often while instructing you to clean your plate. As a kid, my body type was neither lean nor large,

which meant I wasn't subject to as many direct criticisms. That said, I heard and internalized

plenty of negative talk around body size, clothing sizes, and how those things

relate to being considered a good and attractive girl or woman. At a family gathering,

a relative I hadn't seen in a long time greeted me by yanking out the neckline of my shirt

and peering down the front so she could check and comment on the state of my breast development.

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