There is a need for a crusade of manliness and purity to counteract and nullify the savage work of those who think man is a beast. And that crusade is your work. ~St. Josemaría Escrivá

 

Summary

How do you talk to your kids about purity without turning it into a list of rules and constant "no's"?  Join us for this conversation with Fr. Carter Griffin about the importance of purity and self-mastery.  This episode invites parents to shift the focus to what purity says yes to: love, freedom, and a future built on integrity. We discuss why teens demand authenticity and how sharing your own striving for goodness, with discernment, builds trust instead of hypocrisy. You'll learn how to react when your child falls and create a space for them to speak honestly without fear of shock or shame, especially when mistakes happen.  With clarity and compassion, Fr. Griffin challenges parents to invite their children into something greater than themselves, grounded in mercy at every step. The fight for purity is intense, but it is far from hopeless.

Key Takeaways

• Teach your children what they are saying YES to, not just what they need to say NO to.  Purity is more than a list of rules, it is saying YES to your future spouse. 

• Teens especially demand authenticity and can tell if you are being hypocritical.  With appropriate discernment, talk about your own striving for goodness and the boundaries you have set for yourself in these areas. 

• Develop a "confessor's face".  Be prepared to not show emotion or shock when your child admits to you an area of sin or when you find out about it.  Parents need to be very aware of the trap of shame for a child caught in sexual sin. 

• Call you children to a higher standard, but always start with mercy. 

• Invite your children little by little into ownership of their own formation and practice of virtue.  

 

Couple Discussion Questions

• How can we model appropriate marital love and affection for our children?  

• When and where will we start this conversation with our children about the dangers of porn and the traps that are found in our culture?  How will we continue this conversation? 

• How can we give our children opportunities to practice self-mastery, not just blind obedience to rules? 

 

Resources

• Reclaimed  https://scepterpublishers.org/products/reclaimed-win-the-war-of-freedom-self-mastery-and-holy-purity

• Why Celibacy

• https://stpaulcenter.com/store/why-celibacy-reclaiming-the-fatherhood-of-the-priest

• Last podcast with Fr. Griffin

• https://messyfamilyproject.org/mfp-316-a-manual-for-catholic-families/