Messing Up Your Kids
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.5 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 13 December 2021
⏱️ 56 minutes
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| 0:00.0 | So Rebecca, we have a lot of emails here about parenting and I thought you'd be the perfect |
| 0:04.9 | person to talk with about this. What do you say? We read those emails and answer them. |
| 0:10.4 | What do you say? And cry just a little bit. So this first email is from listener Mini Moon. |
| 0:17.1 | They say, should people with severe trauma and psychological issues be recommended to not have |
| 0:22.7 | children to avoid causing potential trauma to their children? Dr. Honda, you often discuss how |
| 0:29.5 | child trauma is caused by parents with their own trauma. So I'm wondering if people with severe |
| 0:34.3 | trauma should postpone having kids until they have recovered or trained how to cope. |
| 0:39.1 | If you have a client with a severe problem and you know they have young kids, what advice would |
| 0:45.9 | you recommend as a preventative pro-active action to protect the kids at their home? Rebecca, |
| 0:51.3 | what do you think? Well, if people with severe trauma weren't allowed to have children, |
| 0:56.8 | there would be no children. That was my first thing. Everyone has relational traumas that |
| 1:02.1 | interfere with their ability to be quote unquote perfect parent. But if you can put aside your own |
| 1:11.8 | issues enough to be present for your child, so one of the ways to do that is to read books with |
| 1:17.4 | your kid or enjoy music with your kid or move around in space with your kid or take a walk or |
| 1:23.9 | when they're old enough and join new foods with them. Like if you can do, if you can repair |
| 1:28.7 | relationally with your child, it's actually really healing and wonderful. Making up for mistakes |
| 1:36.0 | you might have made earlier in the day or something? Yeah, or having the experiences that you didn't |
| 1:42.1 | have as a kid. I mean, I can think of a hundred things that I do that my son probably doesn't |
| 1:49.2 | even notice, like let them wear whatever they want to holidays, which is very reparative, |
| 1:55.2 | as opposed to my childhood. It was, you know, no white after Labor Day, no tennis shoes, |
| 2:01.2 | like this a lot of weird random rules that seemed really stupid. So I think there are many, |
| 2:08.4 | many ways to be present for your child. That being said, it's not easy. And there are people who |
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