Hey, it's Kelly, and at the end of every week, I like to share something true and useful,

something I stumbled over that gave me a burst of optimism, something you can share with

friends like an audio greeting card, something to help us all keep our eyes on what's working

and what could be.

So, I'll be right back with this week's For The Good of the Order.

This is Kelly Corgan Wonders.

So, For This Week's For The Good of the Order, I've been getting to know the work and the

thinking and the insight and the research of a woman named Katie Milkman.

She's a PhD in behavioral psychology, and she was talking about advice giving and what

actually works and what's counterproductive.

I just know that so many of us are parents, and that parenting involves coaching and mentoring

and teaching, and then demands this shift into something other than teaching coaching and

mentoring, where in fact those same activities that got your kids so far are now ceasing to

be welcome or productive.

And she said this thing so plainly that I thought I should definitely share it for The Good

of the Order.

This is what Katie Milkman said in no uncertain terms.

Unsolicited advice is demotivating.

So, a lot of times in parenting before I speak, I try to imagine is this productive, unproductive,

or counterproductive.

In other words, is it going to help?

Is it going to have no impact or is it going to hurt?

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