Hey there and welcome back to Take One, the podcast that brings you just one bonding page of Tomlin each day.

And today's page, Manachut 39, is all about the ties that bind,

the knots that we use to tie our ritual fringes together. It's a very dense halakhic conversation,

but it inspired us to think about the bonds that tie us together still these days, metaphorically speaking, of course, and we landed

on a delightful new book about a concept we could all use more of, the idea of kvelling

or just feeling joy for each other's success.

An idea that could tie us all together, if anything out there could.

Producer Josh Cross has more.

Barbara Edelson-Petersson is a 10-time world champion triathlete

who spent as much time mastering the frontal lobe as the finish line.

In her new book, KFEL, a word you should know, she argues that it's time to ditch the kvetch and start embracing the KFEL, the ultimate antidote for our chronic complaining culture. Barbara Edelson-Peterson, welcome to take one. Thank you. You mentioned in your book that English has adopted negative Yiddish words like Kvetch and Klutz, but that we've ignored the word Kfell, which means to burst with pride. You credit your success as a world champion triathlete to your father, who was a master of this. So what did Kfelling look like in your childhood home, and why is that specific energy the antidote for our complaining culture? Felling short, is my secret sauce to life. And that means I don't doubt myself.

I have a strong sense that if I aspire to a goal, I won't miss out. I will reach that goal.

And I do attribute so much of that to Kaffalien inside of our family.

Mostly our dad was just the biggest cheerleader.

And he assured us that if we set our sights on something, one, he taught us never to take our eyes off the prize, and that we would achieve our goal. It doesn't mean we

always achieved our goal. It doesn't mean he didn't criticize us like kind of a classic Jewish parent.

But Kvelling, I think, is so valuable the benefits of reinforcement, of celebration, of celebration, of recognition, of connecting, it's too

valuable not to introduce such a positive and beautiful word and practice. My dad would just say,

well, in general, he just thought his three daughters were the best human

beings on the planet. And he boasted it and hugged it and whispered it and encouraged it.

It was, looking back, I think it was unusual.

It was a lot of Kfelling.

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