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Brandt's book, Unoffendable, check out brantanson.com. Such a good question. Maybe you've wondered

about this. Should you forgive somebody if they haven't apologized to you? If you're somebody who says,

I follow Jesus, and I know I have to forgive, but this person

hasn't apologized.

That's a great question. It is. The answer, I'm convinced to this, just coming from me, no expert, but yes, it's not even about that person. Think about this. You've been forgiven. That's why you forgive other people, is because you've been forgiven, stuff you don't even know about. you're not keeping track of all the things you've done wrong. I'm sure of it. And God's forgiven you anyway. In fact,

in the Bible, it says that while we were yet sinners, Jesus died for us. Yeah. So, yeah. Yeah. And

you do it. It's not because the other person deserves it. It's not a let's get away from the deserves thing because you don't want the deserves thing, and neither do I. It's because of what God has done for you. Here's another thing. You'll be healthier as a result. Yeah. Because you're not holding on anger. I think we have to really accept the fact that it's hard. Oh, totally.

And just wipe that out of your, it's hard. Oh, yeah. And just go ahead and accept that and know that it's still right. Right. But when it's motivated by the fact that what God has done for me, he loves me anyway. He forgave me anyway. There you go. That's the basis. If it's just on that person's credits and debits like well do they

deserve then it's even harder yeah because most of us don't deserve anything honestly yeah please

would you please forgive me if i ever sound like uh forgiveness is easy it's so not it's not for me

that is for sure it's excruciatingly difficult.

We were just talking about that, so wanted to get your take on. Yeah, I'm on my chapter three or four of your book, Brandt, which is wonderful. I only, I read, the time I have best to read is when I dry my hair. And I'm trying to grow my hair out longer, so I have more read time.

But so.

So this all came together, Braids book, so I have more read time.

So this all came together, Braids book, longer hair, more read time.

Right.

More reading time.

So I'm only in like chapter three or four, but I thought a lot about it.

And it's so interesting because what I find I live a pretty, I have a pretty blessed. Like, nothing major has ever happened to me where I really had to extend that forgiveness.

But what I think about more is all of the little moments that I've worked up in my head into some bigger thing where, like, the person never actually did something it's more they didn't

remember my birthday or they didn't they're just i don't know it's all these little things but now

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