This person has done this yet again. This is where they are in life. This is who they are.

This is their level of development and nothing has changed and nothing is about to change.

I wanted to let you know the 30-day confidence challenge is happening in just a couple of days.

So this is your last chance to sign up. Go over to MHchallenge.com to sign up for free.

Literally put it in your browser right now while I'm talking. Type in MHchallenge.com and sign up

for free now and I will see you this coming Thursday on the 13th for our live coaching kickoff call.

Matt, the person I've fallen for says they're not ready but they keep wanting to stay in touch and

won't let me go. I'm naturally anxiously attached and I'm suffering every day having him in my life

but knowing he doesn't want a relationship with me. I've tried doing no contact and staying away

but it never lasts. I end up reaching out to him or replying to his messages to me and everything

gets rekindled. Help. So let's start with some important fundamentals about this. You're in a

situation where the other person's vision is different from yours. In this case his vision is

I don't want a relationship right now. I'm not ready and yours is that you absolutely do

want a relationship. Now that immediately puts you on someone else's timeline not on your own.

So we have to start by seeing that for what it is. It's a departure from what you want for yourself

by keeping this person in your life or by allowing them to keep you in theirs. Now the fact

that this person doesn't want a relationship or doesn't feel ready doesn't make them a bad person.

In fact it would probably be easier if this was a bad person. It would make things more clear

cut but when someone isn't a bad person they just want something different from you. It's very

tempting to keep them in your life. When they say I don't want to give you up because that's what

happens a lot of the time right when someone says they're not ready they say but I don't want to lose

you. Can we stay in touch? Can we still talk? Can we still be friends? And all of that just keeps

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