Repeating of unrubility over time whilst not taking responsibility for improving it,

that to me is what harms a relationship.

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But some people specifically even men might be like, I'm not doing that shit because I know

what happens if I go and expose like something I'm feeling and it gets rejected. That's a turn off

for them. I've started a chain of events where they're going to get less attracted. I'm on the back

foot. Why would I even bother exposing myself? Why would I even bother being honest?

I think this is a really important subject to talk about with men in general because it is true.

Men are told to be vulnerable and I'm a big fan of Brunei Brown and her work. But I think that it's

there's an extra hurdle for men to overcome in that work.

That I am being told that being vulnerable is a good thing. But I also, I live in a world where

sometimes I feel like being vulnerable is actually the opposite of what a woman wants.

That if I am vulnerable, she's going to find me less manly, less attractive, less in control,

less bold, less confident. And she's going to suddenly, I've devalued myself in relation to

other men who seem infallible. And he might be this confident guy in loads of areas, but he's like,

I show Chinkanyama. I show a weakness here. It's going to get pounced on.

Now the truth is what that means is if someone pounces on your weakness in that way,

again, providing that weakness isn't your go-to every day. That's what we'll come on to. But if you show

vulnerability, which is not the same as even, it doesn't necessarily mean showing weakness. It's

just being honest about times where you don't feel as secure or when you're feeling something that

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