If that's what you decide is the most important thing, every decision you make has to be in line

with what takes you closer to that north stuff.

Hey everybody, it's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life podcast. So happy you're here and I think you're really going to love this episode today. Let's get into it.

It's quite fascinating isn't it? The red flags in early interactions that we miss and I was made aware of one in particular that's a really interesting one.

I think a lot of people miss by one of my Love Life Club members on a live coaching call I did with them the other day.

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This particular person said that she had met a guy right at the beginning of COVID. They had stayed in touch over the course of COVID. They hadn't seen each other during that time.

And then at one point they were able to see each other in person. She lived in London. He lived in New York and she flew out to see him in New York.

They had an amazing few days together. Really got on well. It was really romantic. They did amazing things. Went to beautiful restaurants. Had a great time. And then she flew home.

Then he invited her to go to Burning Man. For those of you that don't know, I mean I don't even really know that much about Burning Man Jamison despite the fact that we live in LA.

I know that it's in the desert in the middle of nowhere, which is a great place for a date.

No, Burning Man, there's lots of people that go and absolutely love it and swear by it and go every year.

But it's a place with lots of interesting eccentric outfits. There's our exhibitions, people build things.

There's probably one or two drugs ingested here and there. Not by everybody, but by some.

One end of the spectrum is you can build structures and be in community and love with other people in this really interesting creative environment.

The other end of the spectrum is orgies. It's got everything at Burning Man, but nonetheless he invited her to Burning Man.

And my alarm bell went off immediately. Because I thought, my alarm bell didn't go off in the sense that this guy is a creep.

It went off in the sense that I thought, hmm, this guy doesn't sound particularly serious.

But the second detail she gave me is really the part that confirmed it. She said, one of the things that I feel frustrated by is that

since I've come home, we've not really talked much. He doesn't reach out regularly. We don't have long chats.

But he is dead serious about me going to this festival with him. And she actually said to him,

I haven't really heard from you much. And she had expressed that she felt like they hadn't talked much since she left.

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