This person was this way with me and now they are a completely different way with somebody else.

The way that I always wanted them to be, they are that, but just with another person.

Have you this year or in the last couple of years had your heart absolutely destroyed by someone?

Someone that maybe you thought you'd be with forever, someone that maybe you gave every part of

yourself to, someone that you fought for, only to find that that person broke up with you and

moved on to somebody else. I was told a story recently of a guy who was in a relationship

for seven years and for at least the last three of those years, his partner had stopped being affectionate

with him, had for all intents and purposes begun to find him unattractive. She didn't feel any

attraction for him anymore. They had an all but sexless relationship when he went to get close to

her and kiss her or put his arm around her and just have those daily moments of affection that he

craved. She would physically push him away because she didn't want to and she came to see him just

as a friend. During this time when they would go to weddings together, she would say to him,

I don't think I'm ever going to get married. You know, I just don't think that's something I want.

Eventually, she broke up with him and a couple of years into the breakup, he saw pictures of her

engaged to this new person that she had met and in the pictures, there was affection and love.

The way that she looked at her new fiance was the way that he had always hoped she would look at him

and it crushed him. It's a particular kind of ego death when, well, A, we get broken up with

and we go through the heartbreak of that. But B, when that heartbreak comes on the back of

certain needs that we have that weren't being met in the relationship, things we desperately wanted

to be true, whether it's to have affection, to have their attraction, to feel safe with them,

to feel loved by them, when we don't feel those things. And we may somewhere in our minds think

that that's to do with them, it's their stuff. Maybe there's something going on with them they're

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