(Rewind): How To Stop Comparison From Ruining Your Happiness

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 4 August 2023

⏱️ 12 minutes

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Summary

Do you find yourself always measuring your life against other people you know? Or are you worried about whether you have achieved enough, made enough money, or got the right partner by a certain age?

If so, you know what it's like to be stuck in the "comparison trap". While it can be useful to have goals to keep us motivated, we have to remember we are often comparing ourselves to people with completely different lives and experiences than us.

In this clip, Matt explains his own struggles with comparison and how to keep your happiness and get perspective so you're not always focusing on other people's journey.

Transcript

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0:00.0	Where am I in relation to other people, my age?
0:03.6	Where am I in relation to the person who's two years older than me?
0:07.1	Am I on track to be where they are?
0:09.2	By the time I'm their age.
0:10.8	Hey everybody, it's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life podcast.
0:32.3	I'm excited to share this clip with you today.
0:35.9	Let's get into it.
0:39.2	Okay, James, and here's what I'm thinking about right now.
0:42.7	I'm going to make this fairly brief, but just an important life lesson, I think.
0:47.0	I have spent so much of my life in comparison mode with other people.
0:52.7	I'd like to say I haven't, but I have.
0:56.5	And it's always some kind of comparison.
0:58.7	It wouldn't say it's always been bad.
1:01.1	It's sometimes been very motivational.
1:04.3	It's the comparison of where am I in relation to other people, my age?
1:09.9	Where am I in relation to the person who's two years older than me?
1:13.9	Am I on track to be where they are by the time I'm their age?
1:19.6	And of course the other comparison is with myself, where I thought I should be
1:25.6	by this point in my life, or where I think I should be five years from now.
1:30.2	And it's all a kind of game I'm constantly playing with myself
1:37.6	that's based on a story, a story of what supposed to have happened
1:43.6	by now in life, where I'm supposed to be in life.
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