I didn't get anything for I didn't feel you flirted with me

I didn't feel you showed any attraction towards me

I certainly didn't feel you desired me and so I was really surprised to know that they wanted to see me again

How cool should you play it in early dating?

There is a period of the dating process isn't there where we're so worried that we're going to come on too strong

and scare someone away that we reserve the parts of ourselves that really want to come out

parts of ourselves that feel like they're authentically us

maybe we're someone who loves affection but we're afraid to show too much affection

because we don't want that person to think it's too much or we're worried if we get seen to be liking them too much

that we're going to lose all of our power

we may love being the kind of person who's expressive with our words

but we hold back our words and censor ourselves for fear that we're going to say too much

we may love quality time but we act like someone who doesn't really care that much about seeing someone else

because we don't know whether they like us as much as we like them

and we're worried they'll like us less if they think we're too available

I had a question in recently from someone who said I am affectionate I love quality time

I have so much I want to give but I find myself holding back for fear that it's going to be too much for somebody else

that it's going to drive them away and so when I show up to parties with that person

I'm afraid to be too all over them at the party

I'm afraid to ask for too much or express myself and my anxiety is what's making me hold back

now I think it has to be said that there is this conditioning that so many of us have

that if a woman is trying too hard that's desperate

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