A great standard to have is lead and model the kind of culture you want to see.

And if someone doesn't meet you there, that's where the standard comes in.

Yeah. But I can't stress this enough.

We, in our love lives today, everyone is really, really good at, and rightly so. I'm not, this is what they're talking about

is real, but we're really good at complaining about what dating is like today and how hard it is.

And it is. Like, it is hard. Finding love is hard. It is the Wild West.

There is so much bad behavior.

There's so many ways to just...

God, there's just so many ways for it to be bad.

And unfortunately for us, our love life is an area we can influence,

but we can't control it to the level of precision that we can

other areas of our lives. If we want to lose weight, we can eat better and we can work out.

And our body will change. May not get to our perfect weight, but it will change reliably.

In your love life, you can go on a day every day for the next year and still not find love.

Or you can find love and six months later later that person cheats on you and leaves you

and you're back to square one.

It's a maddening area in many ways because we deeply want to find love.

It is one of the most human of desires is to find love and it panics us.

At first it frustrates us and it makes us angry and, but at some point for many people

it panics them because they're worried I'm never going to meet anyone.

We can't just decide I'm going to find love in the next three months and make it happen.

But what we have to start taking ownership of and where we have to start taking our power back is that you can go into your dating life from a place of leadership.

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