(Matt Monday): “Bad Texter” or Just Not That Into You?
Love Life with Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey
4.8 • 2.9K Ratings
🗓️ 2 May 2022
⏱️ 15 minutes
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Summary
Few things can match the heady exhilaration of dating someone and building momentum through regular texting and a sense of closeness.
But what about when the texting on their end is . . . kind of slow and intermittent . . . where there are big gaps in your text exchanges that leave you feeling unsure as to where, exactly, you stand with that person?
Feeling this way might even lead you to start analyzing their relationship with their phone the next time you’re with them, looking for clues as to whether their sporadic phone usage is consistent in their life or reserved just for you.
At some point, they might’ve even shared a generic line with you like, “I’m so rubbish with my phone,” or “I’m really bad at replying to people!” But is this really true?
In this week’s video, I not only answer these questions, but I dig into a really common mistake people make in this area.
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| 0:00.0 | What is your need for a text really? |
| 0:02.7 | It's not your need for words on a screen. |
| 0:06.0 | Your need for a text is your need to feel close to somebody. |
| 0:09.6 | Welcome to the Love Life podcast with me, Matthew Hussie. |
| 0:32.8 | I have picked out this idea as something I think could really help you in your love life today. |
| 0:38.4 | I'm excited for you to listen. |
| 0:40.4 | Let me know what you think at the end of the episode by going to iTunes and leaving a review. |
| 0:44.8 | Now let's get into the episode. |
| 0:49.6 | Do you find yourself in the early stages of dating someone right now and getting increasingly frustrated |
| 0:55.9 | or even anxious that they're not texting you or calling you as much as you want? |
| 1:03.0 | And you find yourself wondering is this person just bad at texting or are they really just not |
| 1:09.7 | that into me in which case I am going to get hurt here? This is tricky because early on in dating |
| 1:17.8 | we don't feel or even have a right to tell someone that they should text us more. |
| 1:27.0 | If we've only just met someone on an app or even we've only been on a date with them |
| 1:34.0 | and they're texting us less than we would like, it's hard to say hey I want you to reach out more |
| 1:40.3 | because that person might be like hey I just met you and you're not such a big part of my life yet |
| 1:48.1 | and that's true. At that point someone doesn't notice that well we've not become a priority to |
| 1:55.8 | someone they have other things going on in their life I hope and therefore we might not be getting |
| 2:02.4 | as much communication as our ego would like but it doesn't mean it's the wrong amount of communication |
| 2:08.3 | we're getting. However over time and by that I mean days and weeks not months the amount of |
| 2:17.8 | communication should build there should be a trajectory to the communication we should feel |
| 2:25.5 | like there's momentum building there is a sense of progress. If we feel no progress that's a problem. |
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