It's not about trying to attract the maximum number of people.

It's about becoming a person of value and then finding someone who uniquely values what you have to offer.

Are you someone who suffers from the anxiety of getting rejected?

Does it stop you from taking risks?

Whether it's approaching someone in real life or messaging someone on an app or going on a

first date with someone? Maybe you just feel this socially in general, this sense of anxiety

at talking to other people and then rejecting you. You might even feel it in your professional life

that there are risks you don't take, there are calls you don't make opportunities, you don't

ever put yourself up for because you're terrified of the rejection that could ensue.

So how do we begin to reduce our sensitivity to rejection? I'm going to give you three secrets

to changing your relationship with rejection. Number one, appreciate that rejection is complex.

Other people have all sorts of reasons for rejecting us. It might be that you're not their type

which has nothing to do with how attractive you are. It's just that you're not their type.

It may be that they're looking for something superficial purely. It might be that they are still

hung up on their ex. It might be that they're hungry. It might be that they weren't hugged enough

as a child. There are so many reasons why someone might have rejected us that have nothing to do

with our true value. But what we do in those moments is our ego takes our biggest insecurity

the way that we are terrified that we're deficient and it makes the rejection about that. Of course,

they didn't like me because I'm not pretty. I'm not interesting. I'm boring. Just as I had suspected.

They don't like me because I'm too old. We take our biggest insecurity and we make that

the entire story. Even as you're listening to this, there will be some people who are going,

but that is the story. That's what our insecurity does. That is the story. Let's just play a

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