Masturbation: A Path to Intimacy? #764
Sexy Marriage Radio
Dr Corey and Pam Allan
4.6 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 21 January 2026
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I answer an email from a listener about how she can seek her own pleasure after orgasm troubles have appeared. The wife shares that she has been diagnosed with lichen planus, which has impacted her ability to orgasm during intercourse. Despite this, she can still achieve orgasm through masturbation and is contemplating whether it is selfish to ask her husband to allow her to masturbate alongside him after they have sex.
Our conversation explores into the complexities of sexual intimacy, particularly how changes in the body and sexual function can affect relationships. We want to encourage listeners to consider the importance of collaboration in sexual experiences, suggesting that masturbation can be a shared activity rather than a solitary one.
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We explore the guilt and shame often associated with masturbation, particularly in the context of religious backgrounds, and advocate for a more open and accepting approach to discussing sexual health and pleasure within marriage.
We give you some questions to ask yourself regarding your beliefs and possible scripts surrounding your sex life.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome back to another episode of sexy marriage radio. Hey Pam. It's good to see you here at another episode of sexy marriage radio. Good to be here. I just took this big swallow of coffee and I'm like, oh, could you hear that on the way? I don't know. Let us know. Feedback at sexy marriage radio.com where we're constantly asking for interactions with the nation. |
| 0:23.2 | And that's one of the ways they can let us know what's going on. |
| 0:27.9 | That's where we'll be heading today is an email that came in just recently to our inbox. |
| 0:34.3 | There's also a voicemail line, 214-702-9-565 is where you can call in and leave your message that we can listen to and then answer on the air because we want to have a |
| 0:38.6 | dialogue that helps frame conversations with yourself and your spouse so that you can confront |
| 0:45.0 | the things that life inevitably is going to throw at you, particularly in your sex life. |
| 0:49.3 | And that's where we're heading today. And so let's just jump right. I think this is an email from a |
| 0:53.0 | wife. She says, I've been |
| 0:55.1 | married for 30 years. And my husband and I have had a good sex life with similar desires and lots of |
| 1:00.1 | orgasms for both of us. So kudos to both of you on that. The past six months, I've been unable to |
| 1:07.2 | orgasm with him. It's been a pretty difficult time and I've been become in an intensely |
| 1:12.7 | higher desire feeling like that I need to get off and since he orgasms every time we have sex and I don't |
| 1:19.1 | or can't. Last week I was diagnosed with lichen plaintiffs of the vulva, which is probably the cause of my |
| 1:27.3 | problems with orgasm. And I looked that up. |
| 1:29.7 | I wasn't sure what that actually was. And that's a chronic inflammatory condition, often associated |
| 1:36.9 | with an autoimmune issue possibly. And it creates soreness, tightness, itching pain. |
| 1:51.4 | And it is treatable with topical, but the length of the treatment is varied on how long before it takes care of everything. |
| 1:53.5 | So just for that side note with the conversation today. |
| 1:57.6 | She's about a week and a half into the treatment. |
| 1:59.8 | The doctor gave no predictions on when or if |
| 2:02.1 | orgasms would come back. I can actually still orgasm on my own with masturbation. So my question is, |
| 2:08.9 | is it wrong or selfish of me to ask my husband to let me masturbate with him alongside on the days |
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