It turns out that the very concept that masculinity is toxic has much deeper roots than most

of us realize.

Most of us probably think we're about the 60s or something with a feminist movement.

Second wave.

No, no, no.

You have to go all the way back to the Industrial Revolution.

Welcome to Family Life Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that

matter most.

I'm Shelby Abbott and your hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson.

You can find us at familylifetoday.com.

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When we first got married, you would often say, I never want to be like my dad, ever.

That was like a mission of my life.

It was a mission, because you will not become like a womanizer, a womanizer, divorce, selfish,

any idol.

I mean, there were some good things about my dad, but they walked out when I was seven.

So I was on a quest.

I will never become that man, but when I was a junior in college, I looked in the mirror

one day and I thought, I am my dad.

I wasn't a Christian yet, and I was scared.

I was going to parties and drinking, and I was college quarterback, so I had women, and

money was at the top.

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