Welcome to the show. I'm Dr. Corey Allen alongside my wife, Pam, each and every week.

Good to be here every week. That's right. I stepped right on you right at the very beginning.

No, you're good. One of the threads of today's episode is warning signs of problems in marriage.

I think you're all right. Not letting a coho speak. Maybe that's one of them.

I really wasn't gonna speak. So maybe one of them is we read our spouse wrong.

That never happens. Never ever. Well, now welcome to the show. This is passionately married,

where what we're trying to do is frame conversations and actions that couples can take that just

enhance their life together, be it their marriage, their sex life, their communication, their

parenting, their personal life, because not a shocking statement at all, but they all overlap

onto each other. Yes. They feed off of one another for sure. Because one of the foundational

beliefs we've had is that marriage has a design in mind to help us grow up. And one of the other

things that happens is, and this is one of the threads of almost doing this for 12 years now,

one of my favorite threads of messages that come in at feedback at passionatelymary.net,

or 2147-029-565, which is our voicemail line, is the idea of, I started listening to you guys

because I was trying to figure out how to get my spouse to change, or stop doing whatever,

or fix things. I wanted to come fix my spouse, and lo and behold, it was me that needed to get the

work done. Not letting them off the hook by any means, but we control, we can control. Which,

at the end of the day, it's just us. And we got to realize that because a lot of times what happens

is in marriage, and in life, we're trying to create something, grow something, be something,

if you think about it. That's kind of why we got married in the first place.

Yeah, hopefully we're trying to grow something, and we're not just stale, but anyway, hopefully

there's a purpose there in that connection in that relationship. Because one of the things I love

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