Dear young married couple, a few days ago, we posted something on Instagram about the priority

of your marriage over any other earthly relationship, and it clearly hit a nerve. Yep, some of you

loved it. Some of you had questions, and some of you pushed back pretty strongly. And honestly,

we get it. Because sometimes when we say things like your spouse should come before your kids, people don't hear that. People hear something like your kids don't matter that much. That's absolutely not what we mean. So today we're going to slow down this conversation and unpack it to get some clarity.

And we're going to talk about the difference between responsibility and priority.

We'll ask whether we're actually in covenant with our children.

And we'll look at what scripture means when it says to leave and cleave and why marriage is

described as a one flesh covenant.

But we're going to get really practical after that. Because priority is not

just about who gets the most time. I mean, if you have young kids, we don't even have little kids.

We have young kids. But if you have babies, young kids, your kids are going to get more of your

hours than your spouse does. For sure. But priority also shows up in other ways,

like your energy, your attention, your affection, your decision making, your loyalty,

your emotional availability. We're going to talk about those things. So if you've ever felt like

I only get the leftovers or somewhere along the way, we became great co-parents, but distant spouses.

This conversation is for you.

Because your children aren't less important than your spouse, but they're just not the same

kind of relationship.

Your spouse is your covenant partner and your children are your holy responsibility.

And when those get out of order, the whole house just feels it.

So let's dive into what it means first to leave and cleave. Yeah. So, Krista is going back to Genesis

24, which really starts to set what a marriage ought to be. Yeah. So Genesis 2224, we're in the garden and got, this is before

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