Be careful how you communicate to your spouse. Why? Listen to Adrian Rogers.

Now, there are those always in marriages who want to play the professor. That is they want to talk down.

They want to act superior. And the marriage is full of constant put-downs and belittling.

When man said to his wife, I can't understand how God could have made you so beautiful and so dumb at the same time.

She said, it's simple.

He made me beautiful so you'd be attracted to me and made me dumb so I'd be attracted to you.

When you be little your partner, your partner is going to be defensive if you attack their self-worth.

Oh, what lessons are in store for us today about marriage.

This is Love Worth Finding with pastor and teacher Adrian Rogers. Today our lesson concerns conflict in

marriage. Now is it common to argue with your spouse? Sure. Sometimes spouses seem to feed on it. Enjoy that argument. The question is not as

their conflict in your marriage. The question is how are you handling it today?

If you have your Bible, will be in James, chapter one,

look at verse 19, with marriage dual or duet.

Once again, here's Adrian Rogers.

Is it common to debate with your mate?

Well it is.

Almost all folks who are married sometimes get into it.

Now sometimes some folks stay in it.

Well, the most important thing, believe it or not,

is not whether or not you have confrontations.

The most important thing is this, how do you handle those confrontations?

Look in verse 19, wherefore my beloved brethren let every man be swift

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