You're listening to the Allender Center podcast with Dr. Dan Allender.

This week, Dan and his wife Becky Allender continue our marriage series by sharing more of their own story as a couple,

and discussing the idea that cleaving together and growing in the kind of unity and connection is necessary for a life-giving marriage.

What we hope to consider today is the issue of how a couple is meant to cleave together.

Back to the passage that a man and a woman are to become one-hearted,

there to leave their mother and father, and to become one-hearted in the way that they engage,

and then to become one-flesh.

And so the category for us to consider is what's involved in becoming soul-hearted together,

one-hearted, and what are the struggles and something of the dimension of what is required

for a couple to grow.

And when I think, Becky, about what what brought us together and certainly a

factor in what has kept us together, I've always been extremely fond of your legs.

10th grade, I sat one row over and three seats up. I was in the A category. You were a G at Gilbert, and I dropped my

pencil probably more times than that class could endure. And as a result, I got at least a passing

glimpse of your glorious legs.

So sensuality is certainly one of the factors that drew me to you, but also as kept us connected to one another.

I'm grateful for that.

I didn't know you were dropping your pencil.

I was more aware of how you really got along quite well with the French teacher.

So was it French?

Yeah, it was French.

Yeah, yeah, the French teacher.

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