Welcome to Let it be easy with Susie Moore.

Let's talk today about making silent amends. Making silent amends. Making amends is something that comes up with a lot of self-help literature or in a lot of

self-help groups including Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, it's taking accountability

for your actions and where you can making amends.

So saying an apology, communicating your experience, connecting with others by just

acknowledging and understanding your behavior, what drove it, and saying,

okay, I'm going to do better now. But making amends isn't always possible and number two it's not always practical.

Okay so what do I mean by possible?

So if I'm on the phone with Virgin Airlines, because my flight's been cancelled,

mm-hmm, and I'm a little bit sloppy because I'm a little bit snappy because I'm a little bit nervous. I'm a bit snappy with the customer service agent and then we get off the phone and say I have this pang of remorse. I can't call the hotline back and go, hey can I speak to that guy,

Jose I think was his name, I just want to say sorry, right? It's not, right? It's not always

practical, right? You can't always do it.

Maybe too you want to make amends with someone who's dead.

I think to myself the ways that sometimes I would chastise my father for being an addict.

I was so angry with him because I saw his repetition of this destructive behavior and I'd be angry

with him.

Now me understanding so much more and having so much compassion, I would love to make amends with

him. But I can't do it in the physical sense, right? I can only speak to him in his non-physical

form. Now I can speak to his spirit. Maybe there's an amends that

you'd make with an ex-husband or wife who you haven't spoken to in 10 years. It's not practical

to pick up the phone and call them. It might not make any sense to do that.

And then when it comes to other ways that it's maybe not practical or not possible is sometimes the person you want to make amends

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