You're listening to On attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to

overcome insecurity and build healthy thriving relationships. I'm your host,

relationship coach Stephanie Rigg and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of on attachment. In today's

episode we're talking all about how to make sense of conflicting relationship

advice. So I think that in the online world in particular, but maybe even outside of that, we are pretty

constantly bombarded with different opinions, you know, different ideas, different advice on how to navigate relationships and while you could say

you're having so much input and information can be supportive and can allow us to really learn more about ourselves and cultivate

more awareness of our patterns and insights and all of those things, which we could say is a positive.

I think it's undeniable that at times it could feel almost like a bombardment.

And for those of us who are maybe a little lacking in self-trust or maybe you know prone to doubting ourselves

second-guessing things. I'm having so much information and so much conflicting information

particularly when delivered maybe without nuance or context,

with a lot of certainty, it can be really hard to know what's true or what's right for me.

And so I'm going to go through today a few sets of conflicting advice, not with a view

so much to determining for you which is true or right, but rather, I I suppose elucidating the reasons why all of it can be true and I think

so much of you know developing a stronger sense of self-trust and discernment is being able to ascertain, well, is this

right for me rather than is this objectively true in a general sense, is to everyone and so teasing out I suppose when where why you

might you know find certain advice resonates with you and and why you might leave other advice as not being applicable to you or not

being the thing that you need.

So that's what we're going to be talking about today.

Before I get into that, I just wanted to remind you I've mentioned

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