Welcome back to Unlocked. I'm so excited because we have Janet Kramer on welcome. Hi. I'm so excited. Okay, we've been trying to get you on forever. I did

I've been trying to have you on a show too. Hey, we're going to all right. I'm excited. Yeah, but thank you for having me. No, of course, and congratulations on the baby. Thanks, thanks. I'm so excited for you. I yeah, it's I'm

I would my therapist actually my therapist. I was talking about her, but whenever I think it was last session, she goes, would you have ever been able to just say, okay, from because I was showing you a photo of something in my camera. She's like a year later that you're going to be pregnant. You're going to know, no, like none of the above. None of the I've been like, absolutely not that's for someone else. Did you think you were finished having kids? Oh, 1 million percent. So it was like total freak. Well, no. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no

no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. So when I was dating again, post divorce, people would ask and I'd be like, yeah, I'm I'm done. Like I've had my two. I'm almost 40. like I've had multiple miscarriages, like it's it's done for me. And then when I met Alan and he asked me I was like, I don't know, like maybe I'm not done. And there was a something that we took for us that was thought it would kind of be cool to create something together. But why I feel like when you meet

Like the right person. Yeah, you want a piece of them. Yeah, and like oh, yeah

I know it almost feels like I don't know like I would be I'd love to create something with him and like have like something

That's ours. Yeah, and I think I would have always regretted if we didn't try

So when we had talked about it and my all my girlfriends were like I knew you're gonna have another one

I'm like really like because I just was like nope. I'm done

No more, but I think it was because I was so afraid of losing again

And then or failing again

And so with him I basically was like all right

I probably won't be able to I can get pregnant

I just can't keep a pregnancy minus the two that I had when those were IV after IVF and doing lots of shots and stuff so

I told him I was like I don't know if I want to go through the pain of losing again

Because that just is gonna just send me on like a whole like to spend and then I'll feel bad and and then I said

I don't really know if I want to go past 40

So I was like well, it's just maybe give it this year and just see what happens and it was the first month

No medicine, no nothing. I wasn't even like I tried the ovulation six bits that I wasn't ovulating

I was like I think I'm already in menopause because I'm not ovulating at all and then it was like

pregnant

Amazing

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