Making Non-Evil, Generous Assumptions About Our Partner’s Responses

Relationship Advice

Colter Bloxom

Society & Culture, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Relationships, Sexuality

4.2 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 4 June 2025

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, examine how our assumptions about our partner's behavior shape the emotional climate of our relationship. Often, we default to interpretations that paint our partner as careless or intentionally hurtful, which leads to defensiveness and distance. By learning to make generous, non-evil assumptions—like believing our partner is overwhelmed rather than selfish—we create more space for empathy, curiosity, and connection. We cover topics such as: We often assume the worst based on our own insecurities. Generous assumptions reduce conflict. Shift from “they’re against me” to “they’re struggling.” Mutual generosity creates safety. And more! Give Me Discounts! Skylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. Prolon - Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift. PXG - Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order. Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:29.0	Teas and Cs apply.
0:31.0	Sitting quietly once you've made the house all shiny.
0:34.5	Down time can be just fine, playing bangers from them 90s.
0:38.7	Tea break. Love to break. Maybe listen to the outbreak. Sometimes it's not time for some
0:44.0	tombola, right? It's enjoying lasagna time, chilling with a book time or time to visit your
0:50.2	nan time. Go on. Play some other time. Put your phone down. Tombollah. Open for fun.
0:57.0	Terms apply 18 plus gambleaware.org. Phoebe was feeling like she was at the end of her rope.
1:04.9	She wanted her relationship with West to work, but the glimmer of hope she had was starting to fade.
1:10.2	They'd been fighting about the
1:11.2	amount of energy he has when he gets home from work. Wes says that he is in a busy season and that
1:16.1	it will pass, but this busy season has been going on for about four months now. Phoebe says
1:20.7	she understands, but needs a bit more and but more consistency. She thought she'd try and dig in
1:25.4	at least one more time. I just feel lonely. I want to spend some intentional and quality time with you that's not in front of the TV.
1:31.9	Just opening up a bottle of wine and having some good conversation on the porch would be enough for me.
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