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This is Laura.

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Today's tip is to make your own magic. If there is something

special you would like to see happen in your life, you don't have to wait around hoping it will happen.

You can make it happen yourself.

Today's tip comes from Kate Strickler, author of the book,

I Just Wish I Had a Bigger Kitchen, and other lies I think will make me happy.

Kate was a guest on my other podcast, Best of Both Worlds,

and she talked with my co-host Sarah Hart Unger about how to avoid comparing yourself to others in ways that are highly likely to make you miserable. Sometimes people feel discouraged

because they think that others have more active social lives or more satisfying friendships than they do.

And you know what? They might. But if you want to

spend more time socializing and connecting, you are best off not viewing these activities as magical

things that simply appear in people's lives. You don't have to wait for others to invite you to do things.

Instead, Kate advises, make your own magic. As in, you can invite people to do whatever you

are hoping others will invite you to do. If you want to go out for brunch with friends, pick a date, pick a

restaurant, and text a handful of people you would enjoy spending time with, hopefully you will be

able to rally a few folks to join. Or maybe you've always thought it would be fun to be in a book club.

You don't have to plan a year-long curriculum and schedule gatherings for Or maybe you've always thought it would be fun to be in a book club.

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