Welcome to Nobody Told Me. I'm Laura Owens. And I'm Jan Black. If you're looking for ways to

increase your self-worth and confidence, you have come to the right place

as we talk with our guest, Maho Mofino. Maho is a Stanford University trained designer and

women's leadership expert who uses her knowledge and training in design to help women build

creative confidence. And she is the author of the new book, Break the Good Girl Myth. How to Dismantle

outdated rules, unleash your power, and design a more purposeful life. Maho, thank you so much

for joining us. It's a pleasure to be here. Thank you. What is the good girl myth and why do you

want to break it? Great question. Yes, the good girl myth, well,

you know, the book is called break the good girl myth, but there are actually five of them

that I argue every woman needs to break in order to step into more power. And they are the

myth of rules, the myth of perfection, myth of logic,

myth of harmony, and myth of sacrifice. And so these five good girl myths are what I call

subconscious programs and beliefs that stand in our way that maybe we learned as girls in our younger years but are no longer

serving us in adulthood. Can you talk to us a little bit more about each one? Absolutely. I have

literally been thinking about this for the last three years. So it's just been like, finally I'm getting

to talk about this. Sure. So myth of rules is when we basically

follow external authority instead of trusting our own opinions and our own needs and desires.

So that's something that we pick up as little girls and obviously stays with us.

Myth of perfection is when we are basically trying to perform at a high level without breaking

a sweat. So we're putting on that illusion. Myth of logic is when we're really focusing on our

head and our intellect instead of tapping into our intuition and other forms of

emotional intelligence. Myth of Harmony is one of my favorites. That's the one when we are

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