If you're looking for a podcast on navigating the difficult relationship,

whether that's with your partner, a friend, or one of those relatives,

the one that you really don't want to see it, family reunions,

then go ahead and check out my other podcast over at loveandabuse.com.

Welcome to the overwhelmed brain, where you'll learn to make decisions that are right for you

so that you can create the life you want now.

Welcome to the show. My name is Paul Coliani, and I am here to help you learn how to deal with

difficult people and tackle life's challenges without compromising who you are.

This show consists of my personal opinions and is meant for informational purposes only.

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being. I guess I'm a professional

too, but not that kind of professional. Let's seek a mental health professional

or therapist or whatever. If, you know, you need it. I don't like to push anything on anyone.

I'm actually all about pursuing the self-help route first, but you know, you're going to make

the disclaimer just in case it's a little deeper than you can handle yourself or you need to talk

to somebody else. I highly recommend it. So that's why I say that. I personally like to go

as much as I can into the self-help route first, and that usually means asking myself

a lot of questions, especially when I get emotionally triggered. I used to walk around with

emotional triggers all the time. I used to be ready to be triggered. I could be triggered by

something that was seemingly innocuous, and it would make me upset.

And so I finally started healing by asking myself questions. I've talked about

drill-down questions in the past, and they're basically questions that go deeper and underneath

what you're experiencing, or in my case, what I was experiencing. If I felt jealous, you know,

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