Hi my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

Here's the here's a challenging thing when we see a friend, a family member, someone we care about that

says negative things in themselves, that we see them, their mood cycles are extreme. They could be happy

but then in low places and like at home for weeks and then maybe even doing things to harm themselves.

How can a friend, a family member, actually communicate so they feel heard supported and seen to start improving their life?

Thank you for asking such an important question.

Such an important question. So it seems hopeless sometimes.

It does, it seems hopeless and it seems like it's going on forever and it generally will go on for months or years.

And it's very, very hard on the family, and you look at it when you see a loved one of whether it's a family member or a friend

going through these ups and downs where they seem okay and even you're like,

thank God they're okay again and then there's this mess up up again so that there's almost like three things that you do there as well.

The first thing is make sure that you know how to process what you're going through.

Because when you love someone, what happens is you absorb their pain.

As much as I love my children. what happens is you absorb their pain.

As much as I love my children, I can't absorb their pain

and you try and do it as a parent,

you try and absorb their pain.

As much as I love my husband,

as much as I love my friends, and much as I love you as a friend and I can't absorb what you've gone through because and I'll try because I care.

So will you, you'll try and you have and all of us have.

But when you take someone's pain in the way they are,

you see them experiencing it, you are actually not going to be able to discern.

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