Good evening, everybody. How are you? Welcome to the show. Got a great show planned for you.

One of the more important ones, topically, because this is something that everyone has a relationship with and we'll save, literally save lives, save relationships, save mental health.

We're going to talk about self, self-soothing ways to deal with difficult times with our emotions.

This is something that few people have down and something

we all struggle with. It's an ongoing piece of work. And it's what leads to a lot of violence,

a lot of breakups, a lot of relational damage and destruction. So, oh, put on your seatbelts.

It's an important one. I've talked a little bit about this, but we're going to do a whole show on it. Um, DMs always open. So if you got some DMs for us,

put them in the DMs on our Lovelin IG page. Otherwise, y'all, let's jump in. So a thousand things.

Um, I want us first to identify this in ourselves before we start pointing the finger,

looking at a partner. Um, the key factors that really help us first to identify this in ourselves before we start pointing the finger and looking at a partner.

The key factors that really help us begin to zero in on who we are in the world and what our work is, is how we are, how we act, what we say, what we do during difficult times.

That is probably one of the best demonstrations of your mental health.

When things are going swimmingly and things are easy and things are comfortable, how you act and respond isn't as meaningful because it's easy.

I say that all the time on the show and things are easy, it's easy.

Great.

Enjoy that.

But how we deal with things when they're difficult or complicated or when they're hard or when

we're let down or disappointed or frustrated or we're mad, that is where our mental health

is shown. And we somehow think that it doesn't count. And we want to be let off the hook and we're like, yeah, but I was really

upset. I was mad. Yeah, exactly. That's why it mattered more. But somehow we think that like, it

doesn't matter what we do in those times. And it's like, yeah, no, no, everything counts.

If you walk away with nothing from tonight show, although I hope it's more than just this one thing. Know that everything counts. It does count how you act and what you say and do when you're angry or

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