Good evening, everybody. Welcome to the show. Got a great show plan for you.

We're going to talk about something really important tonight. Intimacy. What is it? Why are we so

afraid of it? How do we work on healing that fear? And I think a lot of you're going to be surprised

and maybe realize you do have some fear of intimacy without realizing it because

there's a lot of hidden ways that it shows up in our lives and we think hey

just because we're married living with someone seeing them a lot we assume intimacy is inherently there

and it's not so we're going to talk about all those factors which is going to be good because

it's going to help heal some relationships or, you know,

retroactively we look and we realize, yikes, there it is. That's why things went awry. But we learn,

as I say, it's the most meaningful thing we can do is look backwards at who we've been to see what's possible and to determine who we want to be again and who we don't want

to be again. And we learn about ourselves through our relationships, historical and current of all

kinds. Everyone should be doing that relational work. What kind of friend am I? What kind of son or

daughter am I? What kind of partner, husband, parent? What kind of boss? What kind of teacher?

How am I in terms of all the different relationships in which we're embedded?

And that shows us where our work is.

We often think that the problem is that other person if they didn't trigger me, if they

weren't so difficult.

But your responses show you where your work is, where your healing is necessary.

Because in theory, what people do is neutral.

And our responses tell us about ourselves.

We can't look for other people to change.

So we don't have to do the work of changing as well and, you know, learning about

...