Good evening, everybody. How are y'all doing? Welcome to the show. Got a great show plan for you.

I'm going to be talking about why it's so hard to leave unhealthy relationships. Look, it's hard to

leave relationships period for some of us. You know, how comfortable we are leaving is sometimes

tied to, well, how desirable we feel. We are. What we believe is possible moving forward.

Damage that's done, time and energy. Lots of reasons as to why people just want to kind of stay put.

We want to stay comfortable. So we're going to be breaking that on down all night.

If you've got a DM for us, questions you got, topics you want cover, drop those in the dms on our love line ig page love

hearing from you past episodes of the show we're always over at we are channel q.com yeah you know

there's no one singular theory as to why anything happened psychologically or relationally it's always

a lot of uh intersecting compounding synergisticistic impacts and parts of our history that are brought

forward into the future reenacted. It's quite fascinating. There's some people where

they're like, every time you're in a relationship with someone, there's you, there's them,

there's their history, there's what the two of you co-create. There's cultural stuff woven into there.

In there, there's our gender, trauma, so much. It's amazing that any of us are ever able to really

get into or pull off relationships. And we don't really have good relational working models.

I mean, that's something that I consistently see with patients in my practice is, you know, no matter what the reason might be that someone enters therapy, there's always work to be done around. What do you think are the healthy components of a relationship? Do you know how to be a good partner? We don't really have good answers for this because a lot of people have never, ever sat down and talked about it or thought about it. No one's ever said to them, here's what are the qualities of a healthy

relationship. So just pause and ask yourself that question. Do you know what a healthy

relationship looks like? And if you're in one, a relationship, how do you know whether or not

you're being a healthy partner? What are you using to assess that? And most people, the answer is I'm not or I don't know.

Or, yeah, I could probably rattle some things off, but I'm not necessarily analyzing or applying that to my actual relational life.

And we have to.

So if nothing else tonight, I want you to walk away tonight's show saying, huh, it's a thing.

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